I just want to start this letter by saying I get it—I’ve been there too.
In fact, for a number of years, I traded one narcissist for another—each one more charming and less obviously a narcissist than the last.
So, when I say that I can appreciate the damage and destruction they cause to someone, I really mean it.
I also understand the intense pain, sorrow, anger, and emptiness that is felt when we finally extricate ourselves from the claws of the narcissist.
I want other victims to know this: regardless of the depths of pain that we initially felt, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Ultimately, each time we overcome the influence of a narcissist we’re left a stronger, more resilient version of ourselves.
Hold onto that hope. Please know that is what the future holds.
Also know that people who fit into the “empath” personality category attract a higher number of narcissists into their lives, simply because empaths are more likely to be people-pleasers, and less prone to having strong boundaries.
That’s what narcissists (and sociopaths) want—to find someone they can easily control and manipulate.